CONTENTS OF GRAND PARENTING BOOK
Table of Contents
Prologue: Recalling the Lessons of my Grandparents…………………………...
Act 1: Making the Best Human Beings (Self-Esteem)...........................……..
COUPLING..........................................................................................…
The art of choosing a relationship that is committed, primary and nurturing.
NURTURING.........................................................................................
The art of loving each child in an atmosphere of positive attention.
DEVELOPING…………………………….
The art of launching each person to the next stage. (Trust; Venturing; Gender; Self-confidence; Independence; Intimacy; Responsibility; Expanding the Spirit.)
GIFTING..................................................................................................
The art of encouraging God-given talents in the child.
RESPECTING..........................................................................................
The art of humanizing another as you would like to be treated.
MIRRORING............................................................................................
The art of reflecting joy about living rather than unreasonable fear about its dangers.
Act II: Using Parental Responsibility Wisely (Discipline)......................
MENTORING....................................................................................
The art of mentoring, not punishing, in raising a child.
CHALLENGING...................................................................................
The art of providing both nurture and challenge.
ATTENTION-GETTING...................................................................
The art of responding to maladjustment: AGM, power, revenge, helplessness.
ACTING DECISIVELY..........................................................................
The art of acting and following through rather than talking about behavior.
PROBLEM-SOLVING..........................................................................
The art of deciding who owns the problem.
USING CONSEQUENCES.................................................................
The art of experiencing natural results rather than over-protecting.
GOALING..............................................................................................
The art of supporting good behavior to develop gifts and competence.
Act III: Changing our Messages for Better Results (Communication) ...
OPEN-CHOICE STYLE OF PARENTING............................................
The art of exchanging messages and presenting choices in a cooperative atmosphere.
ACTIVE LISTENING…
The art of encoding and decoding messages to establish relatedness.
USING I-MESSAGES
The art of working through conflict by using “I-Messages.”
CLEARING THE BLOCKS…
The art of recognizing poor communication and untying the knots to build community.
Act IV: Developing Ethical Human Beings (Values)................................
PEACE......................................................................
The art of experiencing a Sabbath rest after resolving the gaps of violence.
JUSTICE................................................................................
The art of leveling the ups and downs of class, race and monies by making society more fair..
ECOLOGY...............................................................................
The art of building up rather than tearing down creation by taking responsibility for the future.
OPENNESS.............................................................................
The art of creating a flexible attitude of nurturing a person rather than setting up strict rules.
AUTHENTICITY.........................................................
The art of finding significance in our insignificance, in becoming whom you are and not copying somebody else’s role.
LOVE.....................................................................................
The art of living in an ethnically diverse culture by expressing justice in a society and overcoming the separated through passion or friendship.
Epilogue: Raising the SQ Vision of the next generation............
Appendix:
PARENTING STYLES……………………………………………………
RESOURCES…………………………………………………………..